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Nelson Mandela’s Death Brings Me Great Joy!

Yes, you’ve read that right. I, as a white woman, have the guts to say that the death of a black African President brings me overwhelming comfort!

Nelson Mandela

Now, for those of you who have bothered to read on before blowing my blog off in a huff, I want to thank you because you’re the ones who’ll hear the meaning behind my title.

First of all, it’s not my wish for anyone to take my title and first paragraph to heart, as if I truly meant what I said in an ugly way; it’s only purpose was to lure in readers through my wording. For those of you who know me, you know that I adore all living things, including humans, animals, plants, etc. To lose a loved one, a great friend, or a wonderful man such as Nelson Mandela is a terrible loss for many. As we’ve seen in the reports on television, his death is felt far beyond Africa’s boundaries. But let’s get back to my title, the reason you chose to read this blog to begin with.

One’s first instinct after losing a loved one is to mourn, however, over the past decade or so people have focused more so on celebrating the deceased person’s life. Although we love and appreciate those in our lives, we tend to lift them up more so after they’re gone. Though this is sad, we have to admit, it’s true. Just as my family recently celebrated my father’s life, millions, including me, are celebrating Nelson Mandela’s life.

When I reflect on Mr. Mandela’s life, according to what reporters convey to us, I get a good understanding of his personality, his collapse, his success, and what he stood for in general. Although Africa has lost a great leader, the world has lost a wonderfully honest man that was a prime example of what all men, leaders, and presidents should pattern themselves after.

So, in closing, since we tend to lift loved ones up more so after they’re gone, I feel comfortable in saying that I’m grateful for Mr. Mandela’s passing. Because of his passing, others can reflect back on his life and see him for the wonderful person he was, and shall remain, thus raising their standards to the example he has set before them.


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Redirecting Our Focus

Over the past couple of days a lot of focus has been placed on the bombers of the Boston Marathon, yet little focus on the victims themselves. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about going after anyone who causes harm to others, but here again the media has gone to the extreme.

Hang with me for a minute…

I recently watched a show where this guy, according to a psychiatrist, was born lacking feelings of empathy toward others. Even during the prison interview he showed no remorse and a total lack of sympathy, period! He had gone on a killing spree after stabbing his step-father to death in front of his mother. He knew he’d be imprisoned, but before being caught he wanted to retaliate against everyone who had done him wrong. He caused havoc in his city, much like the Marathon bombers.

According to the guy’s account of the people he’d killed, “They deserved it!” He told his story to the reporter matter-of-factly. In his mind, his actions were rationalized to the fullest. No remorse, no sympathy, no compassion whatsoever.

Back to my point…

When a mentally unstable person watches coverage of the Marathon bombers and the Newtown murders, for example, they see how much attention the killer(s) get. While watching everything unfold in front of the media, they’ve probably rationalized what the killers have done, and in turn, think they’re in the right. Therefore, when/if their mental rationalization is severely compromised, they probably think their actions are rational as well.

Instead of glamorizing the killers, why not focus on the victims and their families? No wonder people are desensitized to violently cruel acts of others. It’s because of events such as this having non-stop coverage. If, instead, we heard non-stop stories from victims and their family, maybe people would have more compassion toward others. Instead of focusing on the killer(s), focus on the pain brought on by these senseless acts.

In doing so, maybe…just maybe, more shame will be put on the killers instead of glamorization!